By Diamond Mike Watson.
I created the Living Promises pendant as a faithful friend to help one remember what is important in life. Forged in precious metal, the Living Promises renders its charm with positive thoughts.
The inspiration of the design came from a sketch my adoptive mother, Martha, drew when I was a child. She stumbled onto the pattern years before as she was doodling with pencil and paper. She made a square graph of dots and connected them into the shape of a stylized cross. Martha then embellished the negative spaces.
Martha prepared another graph and taught the skill to me, her only adopted child. The result was a magical contour that forever sparked my imagination.
Throughout the years, I found myself scrawling the image. Because of my love for my mother, I associated all goodness within this enchanting symbol.
During the following years, a deeper meaning arose from the drawing. Since ancient times, humans have been fascinated with the virtual indestructibility of a diamond, which in its natural state grows for hundreds of millions of years into an eight-sided crystal called an octahedron. Being in the diamond business, it was easy for me to compare the mesmerizing eight arms to the faces of a fine rough diamond.
I divided the components of the symbol into the virtues my mother taught me as a child. I considered them “promises” that one could keep to enjoy life to its fullest.
The Living Promises:
- Be Kind.
- Be Giving.
- Be Forgiving.
- Be Thankful.
- Be Joyful.
- Be Brave.
- Be Mindful.
- Be Knowing.
I could never arrange any virtue by importance. Since I was rarely satisfied in the concept of ultimate truth, I loosely defined it. I believed truth was a concept that was personal and relevant only to the individual. This is easy to understand when comparing persons who are born from different parts of the globe and into different conditions and circumstances. Because individual truth is important the virtue is blended into the higher levels of the pendant.
The promises mentioned may not be complete or hold the secret to everyone’s fulfillment of life. We are each unique, and a needed virtue may change at any time.
I was careful in being concise and only used examples or commentary to clarify a thought. I also included what I felt were universal virtues that most humans strive for and cherish.
In general, the promises become more abstract as one moves clockwise around its arms. The first promises stem from our basic principles to get along with others. The last two arms are deeper in concept.
In choosing the virtues, I used those which I felt had the broadest meaning. Sometimes a virtue seems to stand alone and sometimes it may accompany another.
For example, a person may need courage (bravery) to be honest and truthful. If this is true, the virtues of courage, honesty, and truthfulness can share a single arm.
However, being thankful may not mean one is generous. Also, a person who is mindful may not be kind. Since these are unrelated virtues they must be found on separate arms.
A “Living” Talisman
The Living Promises mirrors the needs of its owner.
Because I understood virtues could be interpreted in different ways throughout one’s life, I stressed not to cling tightly to any definition. Throughout my own life I have assigned different levels of importance to each promise.
The promises assigned to each arm may not contain the one needed for every moment. Therefore, the Living Promises should be considered a “living” talisman which can be transformed at any moment to benefit the needs of the user.
The Living Promises were born from my personal experiences and were inspired from my mother and many of the world’s most-loved spiritual teachers. Although each of the Living Promises reflect my philosophy of getting the most out of life, I’m certain that each promise has previously been written or taught in some fashion.
Since I believed one person’s truth may not be another’s, I also believed any definition may change or become more or less significant throughout time. Therefore, the user is encouraged to modify any promise to reflect their present understanding of their life’s purpose.
Perhaps love is the origin of all virtues. Knowing we are loved shapes us into who we are. Only when we know we are loved can we love ourselves. When we love ourselves, it is easy to love others. When we love others, our world becomes our beautiful home.
The Living Promises:
1. Be Kind. Love yourself. Love others. Recognize your reflection in others. Treat all that lives with compassion.
2. Be Giving. Give cheerfully without expecting anything in return. Your smile or a kind word can be the greatest gift. Take what you need- Give more than you take.
3. Be Forgiving. Ask for forgiveness when you harm another. Forgive others who harm you and even those who do not ask for forgiveness.
4. Be Thankful. Have immense gratitude for all things. Be thankful for your dwelling, your body, and your senses. Be thankful even for your suffering and shortcomings which strengthen you.
5. Be Joyful. Smile, laugh and find great joy in all things.
Do not worry.
Be joyful for the sunshine of morning, the darkness of night, and everything between.
Seek joy within yourself and you will find joy in everything else.
6. Be Brave. Walk with courage. Live without fear. Speak your truth. Grow in wisdom and understanding.
Wake with excitement in being the master of your reality.
Do your best. The world needs you today.
7. Be Mindful. Be aware of this moment. It is here you hold our galaxy with its family of stars in your mind and realize you are the light within it.
Be mindful the moon may evoke awe in one person yet loneliness in another. We each experience life differently. Your truth may not be another’s truth.
8. Be Knowing. Know you are loved. Know you are a living masterpiece.
Know your words and thoughts can encourage, inspire and heal.
Know all things are possible. Know life gives you every success with perseverance and good intention.
The amazing thing about every day is you create it along the way. Although the pages of your past have been written, know you can write each new page with whatever you desire.
How to use the pendant.
The Living Promises can be used anytime yet the best time is when one can dedicate a quiet moment of reflection or before falling asleep.
Some believe dreams hold the power to solve perceived problems in waking life. By carrying positive thoughts into one’s dreams, one may awaken with renewed purpose. Using the Living Promises at night is a wonderful way to fall asleep.
One may first memorize each arm. It is a good idea to read through the definitions of each promise, feeling free to add or modify a thought beside a particular promise that has a current or special meaning to the user.
Before sleeping, one may simply think about or touch the promise of Kindness on the top right arm. Then one can move clockwise around the pendant with your thoughts or by touching the metal, silently repeating the name of each virtue while giving deep thought to its meaning. One may think of each arm as a door to understanding each promise. The user may spend as much or as little time contemplating each promise and how it is currently relevant in one’s life.
An easy way to use the Living Promises is to simply trace your finger along each arm and silently repeat each promise. If you wish, you can repeat the name of each arm in first person.
Following is a list of other virtues that may be needed in one’s life. Depending on what virtue the user is seeking, any of these can be assigned to one of the arms:
Docility: Be willing to be taught, to learn, and to grow. Be open to new ideas and gaining knowledge.
Good counsel: Seek advice from reasonable persons that can be trusted to have your best interest at heart.
Good judgment: Think rightly about a decision.
Greatness: Seek excellent and superb feats that will benefit ourselves and others.
Humility: Be humble. Free yourself from pride and arrogance. Be modest and meek. Have a serene spirit while focusing on the needs of others.
Leadership. Embrace a commanding authority or influence.
Moderation. Observe reasonable limits by avoiding extreme behavior or expression.
Patience: Accept delay or suffering without getting upset.
Perseverance: Overcome the temptation to quit. Continue worthy efforts despite difficulties or failure.
Respect: Recognize the worth and dignity of others.
Responsibility: Accept the consequences of your words and actions.
Self-control: Restrain excessive impulses, emotions, or desires.
Sincerity: Be trustful and honest in words and actions.
Tolerance: Allow others to have opinions that are different from yours.
Living Promises for Kids.
The Living Promises is a great gift for kids and young adults to remember good virtues throughout their lives. It provides a precious moment for parent and child communication. Words can have different meanings depending how they are spoken or read. Depending on the age of the child, a parent may discuss a single virtue or all of them.
Following is an abbreviated version of the Living Promises that kids can understand.
1. Be kind. This is caring. It is treating others as you would like them to treat yourself.
2. Be giving. Giving and sharing with our family and friends. Sometimes even our smile can be a great gift to someone.
3. Be forgiving. When we hurt others we must say we are sorry. We must forgive at all times and when we say we are sorry it must come from the heart.
3. Be thankful. This is the appreciation of everything. We can be thankful for our home, our food, our mother and father and everyone we love.
4. Be joyful. This is happiness and comes from thoughts of love in our hearts. Joy can come from everywhere- from laughter, sunshine, the patter of rain, our friends, or from the hug of our mother or father.
6. Be brave. This is having courage. It is standing up for yourself and for others. Being truthful is also being brave. Courage is waking up being excited about a brand new day. We must believe in ourselves.
7. Be mindful. In this very moment we are important in the world. We are aware sometimes the moon may make one person happy and the other person lonely. We each see life differently.
8. Be knowing. We know we are loved. We know life will give us anything with good thoughts. We know the amazing thing about every day is we create it along the way. We know everything is possible with our imagination.
The Living Promises is a beautiful piece of jewelry that can be worn everyday, to be admired, and to remember the giver. However, my hope is to also offer a new path to experience life to the fullest, to brighten the spark that we each contain, and to become a better person. This, in turn, makes the world a better place to call home.
The Living Promises pendant is now available in an array of designs as a special order in 14K yellow gold, white gold, or in sterling silver.